My paternal grandmother passed away peacefully earlier this week, she was 88. In her younger days, she's known to be really good in math (something I apparently didn't inherit) and loved to watch Teochew opera, eat, drink and travel. She also had a weakness for cats. (I inherited most of these) We both have weird bendy thumbs, like her mother. She said it means we're creative. I'm still not if that's true. She's been through WWII, travelled everywhere except the Americas and Africa, never worked a day in her life and is mother to 7 children, grandmother to 14 grandchildren and great-grandmother to 5 little ones. I'll miss holding her hand, watching her play mahjong, pray at the altar, and most of all hearing her say "还是阿莉最乖，还是阿莉最疼嬷嬷”... She will be brought to her final resting place beside my late grandfather tomorrow, and I'll always keep her in my heart ❤️💔😢 Mdm Eng Huai Tuan 1 February 1930 - 2 May 2018
Hello, old friends. It’s been too long.
In the time I’ve been away, I’ve written a few private posts here and there which I won’t publish publicly (almost like secret diary entries huh). Since end of 2014, much has happened, which distracted me from writing more. I started a new job, got involved with volunteer work for events that encouraged cutting the small talk and sharing big ideas. I travelled to Chiang Mai, Hong Kong, Bangkok, Penang, Melbourne, Suzhou, Nanjing, Tokyo, Kyoto, Bali, Pulau Sibu, Kuala Lumpur, Malacca, Miri, Lombok, and maybe another one or two places I can’t remember. I also started a couple of relationships and ended one, living more than a year feeling ridiculously blessed and happy. Although it’s been a long time since someone rocked my world as much as this, I wasn’t prepared for all that happened. It was crazy, and several elements allowed it to happen, but eventually, as if by sixth sense, I knew it was time to return to normalcy. Even though I was ridiculously happy. Am I making sense? Sorry for sounding cryptic, but I just needed to make a mention.
I am still ridiculously happy. But for different reasons. 🙂
Someone said to me before, that people in their 30’s (did I mention I turn 31 this year?) will enjoy their lives more and more, because they’d be more sure-footed about their careers and gotten some credibility as an individual, whatever they might want to do. I think I’m starting to sense the wisdom of these words, even though I suffer from the case of Impostor Syndrome from time to time. In the world of digital marketing, I am a newbie, and I’m trying to learn as I go. Hopefully some day I will be able to somehow get a lot of funding to apply my knowledge to bigger, nobler causes… but for now, I shall milk the world of capitalism to explore the big universe of digital content consumption (or so the way I see what I do) the best that I can.
Another important thing that happened in the time I’ve been away: I applied twice for US tourist visa and got rejected the first time. Reflecting on this fact, my life might have turned out very different if it didn’t get rejected at the end of 2014. But finally it was approved earlier this week, so hurray! I have loved the US as a country for very long, and I can’t wait to see it. My flights are booked, I’ve informed my friends, I’ve applied for leave, and I’m saving up for it. It is also the US POTUS elections this year, and I’ve been following Bernie Sanders’ progress closely. I am keeping my fingers crossed for him, not just because he’s a compassionate, humble and sharp person, but because I think it’s time for America to enter a different era of less greed, less selfishness and more sensibility. I won’t go too much into this, just wanted to note that I truly #FeelTheBern! 🙂
Hopefully I’ll be able to spend more time here in the coming months. Stay tuned. Wubbity.
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Sometimes. Life throws you a “curve ball”, as the American baseball reference goes. It refers to a challenge; a difficult situation. Or it’s meant to be something of an epiphany, perhaps.
I was just diagnosed with the condition of polycystic ovary syndrome (PCO) which means I have will have irregular periods, be prone to weight gain, diabetes, cervical and ovarian cancer, high blood pressure and hypertension in my later years. Also, if I ever get pregnant, I will have risk of getting a miscarriage. While it’s nothing life threatening, this gives me a very good reason to take care of myself and prevent weight gain and maintain a healthy lifestyle, meaning I have to avoid too much fat and sugar in my diet.
I didn’t have much of a reaction to this when the gynecologist told me about it, especially the risk of miscarriage part. I could tell that she was watching my facial expression in case I was alarmed by that news. Well, I’ve always planned on not having kids so this wasn’t a big issue. But the weight gain, diabetes and hypertension part made me slightly worried, because I’m not a sporty person by any standard. And the condition is hereditary. Yes, my paternal grandmother has a slight case of diabetes, but it’s nothing serious considering how her lifestyle is a bit like mine – pleasure advocates, we are. 😉
However, this justifies my decision to have a standing desk at work, despite my colleagues’ teasing and all. Well, at least someone from Fast Company already made an encouraging case on having one. I think it’s time to keep to that short workout in the morning plus yoga and swimming regularly.
I’ve never had any real medical issue before, save for my lazy eye during childhood that led to myopia and finally a LASIK surgery in 2013 that changed my life, plus overcrowded teeth that meant I had to have braces during my teens. So far just standard, run of the mill stuff that can be solved quite easily.
I’m just glad that there’s a way for me to find out about it now than later. And why am I blogging about this? Cuz ‘frankly speaking’, I should let people know about it so they can also get diagnosed and prevent bad stuff from happening. I went to see the doctor because of my irregular period. So yea. Don’t take any chance, just go get checked and have a piece of mind. Prevention is better than cure, I don’t know where this quote came from but I definitely agree.
If you’ve lived your life doing no wrong to anyone; if you’ve always made decisions that are based on what you don’t want to regret not doing later, then it’s ok.
Maybe life doesn’t serve you the best recipe to do all you’ve wanted to do but you’ve made the best of your circumstances, and you have more than 20 things to be grateful for, then it’s ok.
Since life is finite and you know that maybe a seemingly bad decision at the time of its manifestation doesn’t seem like the most sensible idea but you’re glad you made it anyway and you’re still reading this now, then it’s ok.
The love of your life came and left you and since then life has been a numbing experience of trying to recapture the memories that you’ve had before and you know nothing else will ever come close, then it’s ok.
Your so-called career has been a series of stumbling through challenge after challenge and somehow when you tell people about it in retrospect and they seem impressed enough, then it’s ok.
If it’s ok that your life ends tomorrow because you’re satisfied with your state of being, then you’ve lived well and everything from now will be a bonus to the universe because you know every step you take is a force for good…
It’s ok to face the inevitable with this honesty. Don’t anticipate death. Let it come naturally and inevitably. It’s ok.
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